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Even though I felt lucky growing up in Croatia with a loving family and great groups of friends, I never felt like I exactly belonged to a specific community. I always felt I was just a little off, a little on the outside. Discovering the queer community in NYC, connecting with other queer individuals, to me was life-changing, eye-opening, and ultimately heart-opening. Being surrounded by people who identify in ways I relate to allowed me to get to know myself better and become really grounded in my own identity and values. Having a queer community takes good times, and turns them into great times. It’s been priceless.
If you are struggling with your gender and/or sexual identity, learning who you are, what you stand for, and how to express yourself in an authentic way is a lifelong process. Don't be too harsh with yourself or where you are on your journey. Remember to have self-compassion and the patience to make room for uncertainty.
To be in a situation in which you are unable to be your authentic self is really hard and so unfortunate. I’ve been there. However, know that it is temporary. There are places where you'll be able to not only express yourself, but learn so much more about who you really are. You will discover that the world is full of people equally amazing, kind, and loving as you are. These are your people. You will find them. For now, be safe and find people who support you if you can. Even though you might not be able to be express it, it's important to still take pride in your authentic self.
If you are experiencing bullying, peer pressure or pain caused by other people because you are queer - I'm really sorry this is happening to you. The negative way other people treat you has nothing to do with who you are, and everything to do with other people's insecurities and struggles. If it’s safe to do so, talk to someone about what you're experiencing: a friend, parents, teacher, anyone who loves you and believes in you. You will get through this and go on to experience amazing things in life. You are not alone. Your situation is temporary. You and your identity are not the problem.
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