She / Her / Hers
Community used to be about seeing familiar faces of the queer scene over the years that I've been living in NJ/NYC. A wink, a simple nod to people I knew from going out to girl parties yet realizing that beyond the music and drinks, I really didn't know anyone. It was still comforting to have these safe spaces to go to, to be myself. Now with QTown, I have a chance to interview queer business owners and the promoters of all the local LGBTQI events. Having a vlog allows me to get behind the scenes to ask the underlying personal questions like "how does it feel to dress in drag" or "how do you overcome the struggles of manufacturing for a queer brand?" In documentary style, I hit record and quickly realize how lucky I am to be a fly on the wall of this beautiful and colorful community.
If you are going through struggles with your gender and/or sexual identity, although it is a lonely space to be in, take comfort in knowing that you are not alone. Find your community to learn that we go through many common challenges. This commonality may be just enough to know that we are valid, we exist, and we can strive.
Being young is formative. Right now is the time to grow under the shelter that may not speak to who you are, but hopefully has been provided to you from a place of love. Take the good and try your hardest to respectfully discard the rest. One day will be your day to make your own moves, to create your own safe space to live in. Use these moments to dream of what that place will look like, and who you will choose to share it with.
If you are being bullied because you are queer: In all things, safety comes first. Be brave, be yourself, yet be aware of your surroundings. Being queer means that most people come from a different place of understanding and in that mix, you will be pressured into heteronormative assumptions. Coming out of the closet is not a pressure that most people have to deal with, therefore they don't realize they are the ones constantly putting queer people into that tight space to begin with. Instead of taking in that sense of suffocation, don't take it personally as you are not asking to live in a closet in the first place. Use this moment as an opportunity to educate others of how they are making you feel. Everyone deserves the right to live their own life, and that is simply all we have to do to be enough for this world.
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